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Have you heard about the recent monkeypox outbreak in Nigeria? It happened in Bayelsa State earlier this week, with 10 people reportedly quarantined. The illness isn’t fatal, fortunately, but please be safe regardless, keeping your loved ones protected. Some important facts to take note of:

1. Monkeypox is an infectious disease caused by the orthopoxvirus family of viruses. That’s the same family illnesses like smallpox, chickenpox and camelpox belong to.

2. It was first discovered in 1970 in Africa. Symptoms include fever, blisters (with pus) and respiratory problems.

3. Interestingly, it can be found in animals like monkeys, chimpanzees, rabbits, prairie dogs, and Gambian rats.

More times than often,  female folk fail to realize that communication with male counterparts goes beyond getting to know each other, the exchange of sweet words, kisses and eventually, pillow talk. Or that the Law of Attraction is not always fixated on dazzling eyes, a charming smile, perceived charisma or top-notch curves.  The birth of sapiosexuality was strung from the male perspective, I believe,  where the man wants to know what this breathtaking, drop-dead gorgeous lady has more to offer than looks. What is her intellectual stance on everyday matters? How does she handle situations when they arise? Can he be proud to communicate with her all day, every day and anywhere?

This is not merely limited to relationship and marriage compositions. It extends to communication between friends, siblings and even mother-son communication. A man sees himself as a man despite the relationship status. He can set aside several communication flaws for the sake of maintaining peace and serenity until the straw that broke the camel’s back is released, and all hell breaks loose.

How then can this be curbed? Let’s dive right in with this guide:

1. After a long day at work

 Your man comes back from the office looking stressed out and tired. How do you communicate with him?

 

“You will be wounded many times in your life. You’ll make mistakes. Some people will call them failures but I have learned that failure is really God’s way of saying, “Excuse me, you’re moving in the wrong direction.” It’s just an experience, just an experience.” – Oprah Winfrey

Welcome back to the workflow, ladies! More quotes after the link…

Adapted from Fela Durotoye’s 10 Values of a True Nigerian, and in the spirit of Nigeria’s 57th Independence Day:

1. Make a positive impact: Imagine if 100,000 fierce Nigerian ladies commit to making lives better – and consistently too – in their different spheres of influence. That is, at home, in business/career and their communities at large. This will do wonders for Nigeria, setting off a chain reaction of change and upliftment. The result.. Nigeria becomes a better place.

2. Be a solution provider: … and not part of the problem! It’s easy to complain about the issues we see in our communities. However, it’s important we each work hard to create solutions instead, at different levels of influence.

3. Be a role model: To be a patriotic Nigerian is to be light in a dark corner of the nation. It’s to be someone younger generations can inspire to be like; a mentor to those on the rise. Ladies, let’s take note!

Are you a rising lady boss in the creative space? Nnedi Okorafor is a Nigerian-American sci-fi author making waves in the industry.  Perhaps you have heard of her.  With many awards under her belt, she is living proof that a love for Nigeria and a wild imagination can set you apart for greatness.

Read on to learn her story:

Her origins

Nnedimma Nkemdili Okorafor was born in the United States to Nigerian parents from Imo State. She was raised in Chicago, US but stayed connected to her roots, visiting Nigeria often with her family.

How she discovered her passion

In high school, Nnedi was a star tennis player, respected amongst her peers in fact. Her sports dreams were sadly cut short though by a scoliosis diagnosis. It even threatened her ability to walk. As it turns out, it was during this time that her passion for writing grew as she wrote stories for fun during recuperation.  She would go ahead to become a PhD holder in English from the University of Illinois, Chicago and Professor of Creative Writing at Chicago State University.  She was also an associate professor of creative writing and literature at the New York State University, Buffalo.

There is a popular claim in some social circles that men don’t emotionally cheat. Men are sexual beings, they say. They keep it physical, all the way. But this couldn’t be farther from the truth.

A man will seek emotional solace elsewhere if he’s not getting it “at home”. He will search for a listening ear, a woman who “gets” him, to open up to. To some, this can be even more devastating, because a one night stand remains just that – a one night stand. Even regular sex might have no love ties. But once the heart’s involved, things can be tricky.

And yes… sexting and the likes? They fall under this category as well.

Read on for signs that your significant other is in an emotional affair:

1. He has been emotionally distant lately: This is usually the first sign of an emotional affair; a sign many women sadly miss when super busy with life. Has he been acting more withdrawn than usual? Does he barely respond during conversations, or show love and care? If your answers are yes and yes, something may be awry.

2. He is secretive with his phone: You probably know this by now but phone calls, Whatsapp messages and texts are just some of the ways men use to connect with other women. So if he’s acting unusually secretive with his phone or other mobile devices, something might be up.

3. He’s more active on his phone than usual: From chatting once in awhile to chatting almost all the time? Definitely a sign to watch for.

Wigs are every Naija girl’s best friend, right after showstopping jewellery and the latest mobile phone. Not only are they super easy-to-wear, they change up your look and save you hours at the salon. From curly to straight to even braid wigs, owning a collection is a must.

When it comes to wig care, the following tips are great to try, especially if your wigs are made of human hair.

Sadly, many women in our society experience miscarriages both in early and late stages of pregnancy. Yet, it’s a topic that seems to be swept under the carpet in social circles, infertility included. More women should be encouraged to share their experiences, supporting each other in the process while they heal.

Today’s post touches on important steps a woman should take to recover from a miscarriage. Perhaps you came across this post after a sudden incident of your own, or you know a loved one who has experienced such loss. Please read on to learn more about the recovery phase and consult a doctor for further guidance:

 

First, what is a miscarriage?

In technical terms, WebMD defines a miscarriage as the loss of a fetus before the 20th week of pregnancy.

 

How long does it take to heal?

Healing can range from a few weeks to months, the length depending on how far along a woman was into the pregnancy.